Feb 26, 2020
What causes emotional suffering? It’s the desire for something to be other than it is. If you feel sadness, you’d rather feel joy. If you feel fear, you’d prefer calmness. If you feel pain, you would choose instead to feel pleasure. And who wouldn’t prefer to feel good? But the thing is, this desire to feel good, is also what creates the feeling of bad.
Without preference between two extremes, there can be no suffering. Without preference, the polarities between two opposing emotions are neutralized. They’re rendered ineffective and harmless. Pain can become pleasurable and pleasure can become painful, which shows that they are actually one, it only appears as if they are two. But when they’re seen as one, then preference loses it’s meaning. There’s no longer a choice, because there aren’t two options.
Moreover, when emotions lose their pull over you, then you stand beyond them, and undisturbed, regardless of what they may appear to be doing. You can feel fear or calmness to their fullest, and yet accept them both equally with open arms. You don’t wish for one and reject the other when you view them as the same. Neither can affect you if you accept them both as one.
The reason why this is important to understand, is because emotions are what give false stories their allure and strength. It’s the glue, what holds them together and makes it seem impossible to break through, or to let go of. Without being gripped and carried along by emotion, an idea is just a bunch of dry words that will crumble under scrutiny.
When you aren’t afraid of feeling fear, then you can look at a story with clarity, regardless of what emotions may arise, because you aren’t hooked, fooled, or scared off from investigating the story when big bad emotions show their face. You see it as a mere little child throwing a temper tantrum, and are possibly even amused at the sight of it, rather than overwhelmed and thrown off from your inquiry into a story’s reality.